Phones, Facts, and Latkes

We have phones! It only took 8 days, a dozen or so phone calls...all made on my cell phone which resulted in a certain Junior Son chiding me on my reckless use of shared resources...and a really nice guy named James who came on Sunday, precisely on time, and who, after examining phone jacks in the house and the outside connection boxes, pronounced my situation bizarre at best. Throwing his hands up in the air; he declared, "Let's go take a look at the inside junction box. I have no other ideas."

Bingo. Hanging on the wall right above the junction box was mysterious second modem. In short order, the offending box was removed, the wires properly reconnected, and voilà! a miracle! All the phones rang! Now, I am not a fan of Comcrap by any stretch of the imagination, but I am a fan of James and his online counterparts in the great state of Washington, Janice and Robert who went above and beyond to get this fixed much faster than the expected November 27^th date the repair calendar showed as the first available date.

Life is slowly getting back to normal at Chez WP. Grandpa Sieg is going up and down the stairs like a champ. The dog has stopped growling at the walkers, and I've gone back to lobbing comments over the interwall at the NY Times, Huffington Post and other news organs with greater regularity. I have to confess there is a certain satisfaction in doing that, although these days, the commenters seem more polarized than ever.

This bothers me but I’m not sure what bothers me more: the vitriolic stridency or the extreme wing positions. This is a democracy and there are going to be positions taken to which I am vehemently opposed. There are going to be op/ed pieces, like Ross Douthat’s on JFK this past weekend, that seem to defy logic and are just plain spiteful. But just as I do not begrudge Donut’s right to opine, I do not begrudge anyone’s right to agree or disagree with him. That’s not what it’s about. Or at least what it’s supposed to be about. But some of the anger than comes through in the comments! Oh, I suppose I occasionally set my hair on fire…Okay…I did ask if he was functionally illiterate or just unable to discern between real life and fiction. Even so, I don’t think I’m particularly vicious.

Y’know, watching all those documentaries about JFK this past week made me nostalgic for a time when appearance was important. Looking at Mrs. Kennedy, the black veil over her face, holding the hands of her children… her grace and graciousness giving such dignity to our national tragedy, Watching it play out over and over again, and knowing what we now know about JFK, the machinations of his government, and all the rest, I still long for the façade of elegance, a pretense of dignity, and moment of civility.

But that was a very different time. There were secrets in those days. We no longer have that luxury. We have instant info-gratification. We can fact check anything and everything, and heaven knows, there are cameras everywhere. Hiding is no longer a viable option...just ask Mark Sanford about that.

I keep hoping that our ability to fact-check will be turned toward good, and stem the tide of spin and lies. I want a survey to report the raw data, not the extrapolated opinion paid for by some PAC. I want politicians to say, “Look, this is going to help my constituents,” and not worry about what the big pockets will say. I want all this knowledge we have at our fingertips to improve our lives, not give some hack a leg up in manipulating the truth.

In this way, I am neither Democrat nor Republican. I am not Libertarian nor Socialist, nor any other kind of “ist.” I am one of We, the People, and as we head into the next election cycle, I want the candidates to just tell the truth about what is going to help and what is going to hurt…not what the deep pockets tell them to say.

Right now, listening to the talking heads talk about which states are working and which states are not, they’re saying Kentucky is doing really well with ACA registration, much to the chagrin of their GOP congressclowns.  I am of the opinion that the GOP is not worried about ACA failing…because it won’t; they are worried that it is going to succeed far beyond everyone’s expectations…and they’re going to end up having to explain why they didn’t want regular people to get health insurance.

The Wifely Person’s Tip o’the Week

Thursday is Thanksgiving and the first day of Chanukah.

Thanksgiving commemorates a shared feast between Native Americans and Europeans.

Chanukah is about the usual Jewish non-harvest-related holiday stuff –

they tried to kill us, we won, let’s eat.  

Either way, it’s all about survival.

Ghosts in the Machines, The Phones, The ......

So, we had this blackout last Friday afternoon;  the power went out for about 45 minutes. Poor Grandpa Sieg; the house alarm kept beeping and resetting the motion detector over and over so every time he moved, the alarm started beeping again. I wasn't coming home for lunch, so he was pretty peeved by the time I walked in. I got the alarm turned off, and burbled, "Oh! We're just in time for Jeopardy!" 

Guess again.

Well, there appeared to have been a casualty of the blackout: the "original equipment" HD cable box on the big TV was dead. I made the requisite "you take his wallet, I'll get his phaser" joke, and tossed the thing into the car. About the same time, something else happened: the dishwasher came back to life. I know not how such things can be, I only know there came to me a blinking, winking power light that said, "Hey! I'm alive!" 

So much for the good news. 

I picked up  new cable box...I won't go into the unwashed masses waiting for service at Comcrap and the dearth of people behind the counter. It was a simple trade, no money, no signature, no nuthin'. I took the thing home and after dinner, I installed it, no sweat. It did the download dance, and I did the authorization online and voilà! The new box was up and running. Then cable modem started flashing odd yellow lights and I thought it best to call Comcrap.  The desk phone was dead. in fact, all the land line phones were dead. Thank G-d for cell phones. 

Let me just say that Janice is Seattle is a saint. Older than me (so that makes her ancient) she was fantastic. Between the two of us, we isolated what we suspected is the problem and at least I had dial tone when we were finished. Getting a call, however, remains another story. Comcrap is working on it. I told her it was refreshing to talk to someone who wasn't 12, was clearly competent. We opened a ticket on the issue, and now, it's up to them to figure out what went wrong. 

Now, as this isn't enough, while checking connections, and trying to untangle the cords under Ziggy's desk, something I've been dreading due to the Siegfried Theory of Electronic Replacement which means you unplug it from the back of said device and drop the cord on the floor (see 8/19/13: Silence ~ The Unacceptable Alternative for details.) There was so much stuff tangled back there, I couldn't separate any of them without something else becoming undone. Into this Medusa's nest fell the modem and the router. And then I couldn't wake the router up. Now, there was no phone, no cable, and no internet. 

Good thing my friend Bill the Hardware Dude was not otherwise engaged. He zipped over and in fairly short order, the router was awake, the cords attached, detached, and rolled up. Meanwhile, we can get calls, theoretically, but the phone doesn't ring. So we don't know we're getting a call. So we can't answer it. So people who are calling to talk to grandpa won't even get the message machine. Which means some of them will panic. This worries me. 

Monday Night:

We are now in Day-3 of the phone saga. When I came home to make lunch for Grandpa, I spent almost all of it on the phone with Comcrap. This call revealed that when I flipped out the modems last year, they never "deactivated" the old modem which might be why I never had to back wire the phone, which, when I plugged it in initially, resulted in no-dial tone...so I took it off and never plugged it into the modem. This could be the root of the problem, or so Peter in the Philippines said. He promised it would be fixed by the time I got home. However, when his tech counterpart called the house number, he claimed someone answered. That was weird. I was standing there. The phone did not ring. He promised it would be fixed by the time I got home from work.

Yes, I know how to dial a phone

Not so, Kemosabe. I called again. I have no idea who I was talking to this time, but he was completely humorless. He decided call forwarding was stuck. Call forwarding?????? I never ordered call-forwarding and in fact, I requested the no other service beyond call-waiting be operational on the phone. I don't even know how to use call forwarding and I don't wanna know. Just like I have a dumb phone in my pocketbook, I want an equally dumb phone that rings in the house. Is this asking so much?

He wrote a novel length ticket....and adjusted my bill for three days of non-service. And then said it would take "a few more days" to get this straightened out.

Then Prakash from who-knows-where called to tell me the phones were now just fine. His opening salvo? "I understand you think your phone is not functioning properly." I begged to differ. As you might well imagine, I imagined a number of appropriate and inappropriate response. Then he said he was actually calling the house phone number which was now correctly forwarding to the cell. I had a fit. Quietly. I patiently explained to this latest technogeek that I don't have call forwarding, don't want call forwarding, and as a matter of fact, I want it off my phone pronto. This puzzled him, but I told him I wasn't soliciting his opinion on the matter; only on the matter of why the phone is not ringing in the house. 

So here I sit….semi-phoneless. Yes, cable and internet are just fine and there is dial tone so we can call out, but if you have to reach us, try my cell. 

Oh, yeah; odds are pretty good I won’t answer that one either, but at least you can leave a message. It's smart enough to do that.... but not much else. 

The Wifely Person's Tip o'the Week

Seat assignments are at the discretion of the airlines. Period.

Yelling will not help. In fact, it might get you a seat right beside the loo. 

End of discussion. 

More Fun Than Monkeys With Clothes

I cannot catch a break, y'know that? Revolt of the appliances took another twisty turn when I went to start the dishwasher, chock full of fleishig dishes from the Grandpa Is Home celebratory dinner...and it just sat there like a latke. It's 12 years old, and I suspect fixing it is not going to be cost effective...or at least not as cost effective as fixing the Sub-Zero because it's forming ice-dams in the freezer again. But now that Grandpa's back in residence, I can at least call the repair man....again.

I'm trying to decide what's pissing me off most this week, but it's kinda hard. I'm sick to death of talking about Obamacare; there's nothing more to be said on the matter until after the first of the year. Syria seems to have fallen off the radar in the wake of Typhoon Haiyan which,in the scheme of things, is a disaster of Biblical proportions. Iran is dithering, which is probably not big news if you've been following the cha-cha going on at that negotiation. I don't even want to talk about Governor Christie as a possible candidate in 2016.

I do, however, want to talk about the media. 

Secretary of State John Kerry had a transcendental moment of brilliance on Sunday for which I will be forever grateful. 

J. Fred Muggs....
still alive and retired in Florida

Let me preface this whole thing by saying that after some 55 years of news-watching, I have departed the NBC shores for almost all things journalistic. The only two exceptions are Nightly News with Brian Williams and Meet the Press. I even quit the Today show because they've turned it into drivel. J. Fred Muggs had more gravitas than Matt Lauer and the ding-dong contingent with whom he shares the couch.

Now, all thing considered, David Gregory is not a stupid guy and while he doesn't have the élan of Tim Russert, he's grown a bit into the job. Sunday, however, he seemed to have had a momentary lapse of reason. After a sharp interview about Israel, Iran, and the other players in the Middle East, David had some kind of episode and asked a question so absurd, so ridiculous, so inappropriate that one had to wonder what he had in the morning coffee.

Here's the transcript; it's too good not to reprint:

DAVID GREGORY:

Mr. Secretary, final question before you go. You gave some comments in light of the 50th anniversary of the assassination of President Kennedy to NBC News that have now been widely broadcast and reported on. And in those comments you said this, "To this day I have serious doubts that Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone." That certainly would be surprising to a lot of people that those are your views. Would you care to elaborate?

JOHN KERRY:

No. (LAUGH) I just have a point of view. And I'm not going to get into that. It's not something that I think needs to be commented on, and certainly not at this time.

DAVID GREGORY:

Do you think the conspiracy theory, his involvement with Russia, motivation from the Soviet Union or Cuba, are valid at some level--

JOHN KERRY:

David, I'm not going to go into it. It's just inappropriate, and I'm not going to do more than say that it's a point of view that I have. But it's not right, or worthy, or appropriate for me to comment further.

DAVID GREGORY:

All right. Mr. Secretary, we thank you for your time very much.

JOHN KERRY:

Thanks.

Verrrrry fake. 

Really? Conspiracy theories? What's next, fake Obama school IDs? 

It was the "Thanks" at the end that put me over the edge. I was doubled over laughing. The delivery of that one, single word conveyed the absolute essence of cholera, plague, and chicken pox rolled into one. Not even Queen Elizabeth herself could fling that much disdain with a single word. And there lay the brilliance: he wasn't buying the whole premise. 

This stupid ass question was set up to get the guest. Despite the fact we are marking 50 years since the assassination  of JFK, there was no reason for that set up. There was no news value in the question, except as a possible sound bite, and Kerry refused to give them the bite they wanted. 

What is wrong with David Gregory that he felt compelled to ask such a stupid question? Was he impaired in some way? This is something fundamentally wrong with television.

When did delivering the news become infotainment? Are Americans so dumb that the media moguls think we have to be entertained by natural disasters? I'm beginning to think so. To see Meet The Press reduced to such a cheap, sleezebag Press the Meat kinda trick just broke my heart. 

But Secretary Kerry, on the other hand, refused to take the bait. I was so grateful for him not coming out as an idiot. It was so refreshing. 

The Wifely Person's Tip O'the Week

If you didn't call your favorite veteran to say 

"thank you for keep ups safe,"

there's still time to do it tomorrow or the day after, or the day after that.

Dancing Has Been Temporarily Discontinued.....

I’m sitting in a bar at FLL…that’s travelspeak for Fort Lauderdale International Airport, with the Senior Son, Mr. and Mrs. Junior Son, and my baby cousin Perdie, having just left my mother at my father’s bedside at the hospital. Seems my father, so excited about the 70^th wedding anniversary weekend, decided to get the party started when we arrived on Friday afternoon by falling and breaking his hip.

The ambulance came very quickly, and at the hospital it was just as quickly determined he had fractured his hip. That was by 4:00 p.m. Everyone stayed around for a while, but we convinced Mom to go home while I stayed with Dad. That was about 6. Meanwhile, the crack ER staff couldn’t find the “admitting” physician to get him to write admission orders. They tried again. And again. And again.. It was a veritable clown routine. My father was stone on whatever it was they were giving him, no one knew anything about his Parkinson’s disease, no one seemed to know we were even still in the ER triage room; I kept having to go in search of nurses for help. And by 9:30 I was ready to maul the next person who asked him “Is room 10 occupied?” Finally, someone found the admitting doc, got the orders, and moved Dad up to a room around 10pm. Thankfully, upstairs was a different story and I was finally able to leave him in good hands around 11:00.

My brother and sister-in-law went straight to the hospital when they arrived Saturday morning, while the rest of us were still in shul. Having all of us in one place at one time is a rarity, but this time, it was positively karmic. Mom spent most of the day not knowing whether to smile with the sheer joy of having us with her, or to cry because Dad thought he was still at the clubhouse. 

Saturday night, we decided to all go out to dinner as planned. We needed the break. But when we got to Mom’s after dinner, there was a long, rambling message on the phone reminding Mom to tell the driver not to pick him up at the clubhouse in the morning. That and he needed chocolate. I was staying over at my Tante’s house, so Tante took a bag of “Bliss Chocolates” with us and went to the hospital…where Dad said he didn’t understand why he was still at the clubhouse and no one had come to pick him up even though he told Helen [Mom] that he needed to be picked up. The nurses assured us these were the drugs talking.

Sunday morning, we went ahead with the 70^th Anniversary brunch, even though the groom was not present. So many people had come in for the occasion, that Mom just wanted to see everyone…and we did and as surreal as it all was, the brunch was just fine. The only other person who was at the wedding and was supposed to be at the brunch was not present either. My tante insisted that she stay with her favorite big brother… who was still asking to be picked up at the clubhouse.

Home Again…thank G-d.

Though I don’t usually do this, there are some shout-outs that need to happen here. My brother's implacable calmness coupled with his professional understanding of the rehab industry was hugely comforting; he knew the questions to ask and perhaps more importantly how to translate the answers for mom since he's the one she actually listens to. The Senior Son gets special kudos for his incredible patience and gentle guiding of his Bubbe this past weekend. He was the one who got the guestroom at their place, while the couples were at the Colony and I was bunking in with my aunt (giving two widows a chance to compare notes.) I could not do what he did; his kindness was much appreciated not just by his Bubbe, but by me as well. Mr. and Mrs. Junior Son, who have been doing Grandpa duty here in Minnesota, also stepped into the fray with smart phones…looking stuff up as we needed instant information, and additional support for their grandparents. And there aren’t enough “thanks yous” in the world to be said to our friend…and the son of our folks’ dear friends,  Art, who has volunteered to be Bubbe’s “wheels” for the next month.

And one more giant “thank you” to Handy, who babysat the dog here in Minnesnowta, and visited Grandpa every day while we were in Flah-rida.

The good news is that Dad was making much more sense by last night and cogent enough to be yanking Mom’s chain. I think he’s gonna be just fine.

Next week, it will be back to business as usual.

Wifely Person’s Tip o’the Day

If the doctor tells you to use the frickin’ walker,

use the frickin’ walker.

Dancing with Nonagenarians

I don’t know about the rest of you, but I am sick to death of the never ending bullshit over the ACA website. Not a day goes by that I don’t get some sort of user alert warning that something in our computer system isn’t working.  A few months ago, when we switched to an entirely different platform, we would crash for hours at a time. Eventually the big stuff was fixed and we went on from there. So people, give this a rest. It’ll get fixed, people will register, and no one will remember any of this in a year.

Besides, I’m busy having new adventures in Heathcareland. And no, I am not having fun.

Right now, my father-in-law is in transitional care at Sholom East, the local Jewish eldercare center in St. Paul. Let’s just say I am more than thankful they had an available space for him. But more about that later.

When he was admitted to Woodwinds Hospital, things were seamless. From the emergency room to check in to the nurses and doctors, I have nothing but praise. They made a scary situation much less scary for this 92 year old guy who'd never been in a hospital before. When we had to transfer him to St. Elswhere because he had developed some bleeding issues, we were less successful at achieving seamlessness. From the moment we arrived at the hospital until we transferred him to Sholom, it was one communication issue after another.

I have to confess, I am not a fan of this new “hospitalist” system. The hospitalist is a rotating position. The hospitalist who admitted you on Monday might be going off shift, only to be replaced by another hospitalist guy. Neither the hospitalist who admitted Grandpa Sieg to St. Elsewhere on Monday, nor his replacement hospitalist on Tuesday had a significant command of English. Or if they did, their accents were so thick understanding them was a challenge. And if you’re just a little hard of hearing like Sieg is, it’s a BIG challenge. When the doctor was telling him about needed a certain procedure: an endo-skopee.

Sieg:   What’s he talking about????

Me:    I think he means an endoscopy.

Dr.:    Yes. An endo-skopee. That’s when they take the little tiny tube…..

Sieg:   I’m a doctor; I know what an endoscopy is. I just don’t understand what a skopee is.

The hospitalist thing is not like he’s getting this on Medicare or some other low cost program. Grandpa Sieg is a retired Fed. He has plenty of insurance. This is just they way they’re doing it now. I am not impressed. Seems like the hospitalist at St. Elsewhere had a whole lotta patients and not nearly enough time to thoroughly understand the needs of each patient. There were too many missed and miscommunication moments to make me comfortable with this process. Perhaps a doctor more comfortable with spoken English might have helped, but there is no guarantee if would’ve made a difference.  I’m guessing this is the new face of medicine, socialized or otherwise, and we’re going to have to get used to it.

What I cannot seem to get used to, however, is medicine with a profit motive. First do no harm has given way to first, see the insurance card.

That’s not to say specialists he did see weren’t terrific; they were. A special shout out goes to the cardiologist, Dr. Granrud. Dr. Granrud addressed Dr. Siegfried doctor to doctor. Sieg, despite his weakened conditioned asked a lot of rather technical questions and I kinda think he was enjoying the conversational answers. By the time Dr. Granrud left his side, Sieg was convinced the pacemaker was definitely worth a try.

So now, Grandpa is safely settled in at Sholom. The nurses tell me he's charming. Charming? Sieg? Not exactly a word I would use to describe him, but ...hey! the man did woo three wives.... With hard work and G-d willing, he should be home in a couple of weeks.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch….

Down south, in Bell-ray Beach, it’s a slightly different story. My other two nonagenarians are preparing for their 70^th wedding anniversary. Mom decided on a small brunch to be held on Sunday, the actually date. She’s positively atwitter at the idea all of us will be down there. And if that’s not enough, two of the brunch guests were also at the wedding. It will be a lovely weekend, the folks will be happy, and everyone will have a good time.

Across the board, all three of my “nonas” are getting frail. I consider us all incredibly lucky that they’re here and in relatively good shape… even Grandpa Sieg. I am thankful for each day I get to hear their voices and laugh at their jokes, and even reprimand them for being unreasonable.

As long as they are all reasonably unreasonable, I’ll know they’re just fine. What more could I possible want?

The Wifely Person’s Tip o’ the Week

When visiting nonagenarians, locate the nearest closet with a shelf

so you have a place to  stash your head for the duration.

In Order to Form A More Perfect Union

New York Times’ columnist Tom Friedman,  had a particularly interesting op-ed piece in Sunday’s paper. Now, all things considered Mr. Friedman is from St. Louis Park, a suburb of Minneapolis….that city of the other side of the Mississippi that I try to avoid as much as possible. So that makes Tom Friedman a Minnesotan and Minnesotans sometimes allow the “nice” gene to get in the way of his own good judgment. Most of the time, however, he’s a pretty sane reporter, specializing in Middle East and good ol’ American politics. I often disagree with him, but sometimes he writes something that sticks with me. Sunday’s column is sticking, but maybe not for the reasons one might think.

He wrote:

Seriously, you’d get a much better feel for Washington politics today by reading “Lawrence of Arabia” than the Federalist Papers. This is not good news.

I think he’s on to something; business as usual is not what it used to be. And like the guy said, this is not good news.  So, humor me for a moment. Let’s go back to the beginning.

July 4^th, 1776: The Declaration of Independence

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.--That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed…:

September 17, 1787: Preamble to the Constitution of the United States:

We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.

As a follow-up to the mission statement that is the Declaration, the Preamble is pretty good. In succinct language, it sorta tells the world who We, the People, are and what We, the people believe to be good governance. The problem is, however, that We, the People, have lost sight of the elegant truths we should be holding as self-evident.

In order to form that more perfect union, the colonists had to come together to form a union in the first place. This means that there needed to be some measure of agreement that would bind the thirteen individual colonies into  nation. Part of that process is the development of a sense of community…in the classic sense of the word.

Merriam-Webster defines community as:

a unified body of individuals: as in

a:  state, commonwealth

b: the people with common interests living in a particular area; broadly :  the area itself <the problems of a large community>

c: an interacting population of various kinds of individuals (as species) in a common location

d:  a group of people with a common characteristic or interest living together within a larger society <a community of retired persons>

e:  a group linked by a common policy

f:  a body of persons or nations having a common history or common social, economic, and political interests <the international community>

g: a body of persons of common and especially professional interests scattered through a larger society <the academic community>

That perfect union has to be the umbrella over the whole community of states. That community is the foundation for a government that will establish a system of justice for all, insure the domestic tranquility through actions designed to foster good communal relations between citizens as well as states, provide for the common defense against enemies of this burgeoning nation, promote the general welfare/wellbeing of the citizenry, and protect the liberty of the individual citizens…..all under that umbrella of the Constitution.

When the GOP shouts, “Defund Obamacare! Defund Obamacare!” but presents nothing in its place, I wonder why they would throw their own people under the bus. The rural South, so Republican, where grinding poverty is all too often the norm, where manufacturing jobs have evaporated, where un- and underemployment is rampant, their elected officials are fighting against the very systems that will provide access to affordable health care. How can that be? Who in their right mind would vote for someone who hates their very existence?

These are the same elected officials who work to defund SNAP and Head Start, programs that provide children in poverty with food and educational intervention. What happens to those kids? And what happens to the parents who rely on those programs to give the kids a place to be so they can go to work? Quit the job and go on the dole? Isn’t that exactly what they don’t want?

Just as having community is not Communism, having liberty is not Libertarianism. No one is advocating the government take over our bodies…unless, of course, you’re Republican and believe you have the G-d given right to control all women’s bodies and how we reproduce. And doing and saying whatever you please is not how one maintains a nation, it’s a recipe for anarchy. We have been waiting for the fruits of deregulation  for over 2 decades...but have learned, rather painfully, they do not exist. 

So here's the straight skinny:

We, the People are not interested in the Right Wing version of sharia law.

We, the People, are not interested in the Right Wing notion that they control all women’s bodies.  

We, the People, are not interested in economic terrorism waged by the Right Wing against middle and lower classes.

We, the People are not going to kowtow to Right Wing delusions.

We, the People, are interested in is a Congress that cooperates.

We, the People, are interested in access to health care for all citizens regardless of income. 

We, the People, are interested in a nation where all children have access to education.

We, the People, are interested in a government in which all socioeconomic classes are represented.

Which brings us back to the Preamble: to form that more perfect union, there needs to be community first… complete with great diversity and differences. There’s room for everyone under the umbrella of the Constitution.

This country is for We, ALL the People along with all 

our similarities, our differences, our follies and our foibles.

Not just the 2%.

The Wifely Person's Tip o'the Week

Advocating for a hospitalized patient is a sacred duty. 

Stay the course....and don't let 'em bully you.

El Hombre Propone y Dios Dispone ~ Man Proposes, G-d Disposes

Room with a View

I'm sitting bedside at St. Joseph's Hospital in downtown St. Paul. Seems that Grandpa Sieg was having a bit congestive heart failure overnight on Friday, but didn't mention it until late Saturday morning. We ended up taking a little trip to the ER at Woodwinds where he was promptly admitted. One can certainly say life is never boring over at the Minnesota House of Blues, Bagels and occasionally Bialy. 

Yes, they were bought at Jack's
in Saratoga Springs

Knowing he was safe and in the best possible hands, I decided I could make it to the Misha Siegfried Band gig. Which woulda been just fine if, as I was walking out the patio area, I hadn’t caught the toe of my single-owner vintage 1973 Bass Weejuns on a piece of broken pavement and tripped. I did the windmill dance, propelling myself forward, heading for a table…missed the table and realized, in that split second, I was really goin’ down. I managed to arch up and turn, prepping for a slide. I saw people leaping up trying to get to me, but I was too fast. I hit the ground precisely right and skidded to a halt. Misha was yelling, “Do you have a concussion? Do you have a concussion?” and I’m like, “Just get me up.” He wants to examine my head, and I’m going, “I didn’t hit my head; I jammed my shoulder.” 

The “audience” applauded and a really cute guy (a touch too young for this old person) said, “That was the most graceful fall I’ve ever seen! You were brilliant! Your feet actually left the ground and pedaled, just like a cartoon character!” Unfortunately, I don’t think he meant Jessica Rabbit.

I took my bow, announced the floor show was over, but must confess I enjoyed the momentary adulation. It’s how real ballerinas feel…but without the roses.

The gig was terrific. The house was pretty full….with lots of strangers, not just our friends (which is nice) And they want the band to come back. With Grandpa in hospital, the band decided to crash at our house instead of at the junior son's...giving the kid a break. And I was happy for the company. Band Breakfast, however, was scaled back to Misha making scrambled eggs since they were all still sleeping when I left the house for the hospital.

Would that I had better things to report. Today, we had to move my father-in-law over to St. Joe's because that's where they keep the gastro guys, and FIL has developed some bleeding issues. He was transported via ambulance, me following close behind. The intake did not go as smoothly as I would've liked. After the seamless, wonderful experience at Woodwinds, this was a bit disconcerting. We're working on getting that fixed. 

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, the government is still shut down and the CongressClowns are still carrying on about defunding the Affordable Care Act. Now, all things considered, I'm sitting here in a hospital worried about all sorts of things, including how much insurance covers. I have no idea but I suspect I'm about to find out. As a retired fed, my father-in-law should have good coverage, but.......

I keep thinking about what would've happened if he didn't have insurance. First off, I probably wouldn't be sitting here. Without all the telemetry, tests, meds, and adjustments, he wouldn't be snoring away on the bed behind me. There wouldn't be nurses coming in and out of his private room with ice chips, vital sign machines, and assorted moments of good humor. Without insurance, what would I have done? Would I have had to leave my job (which allows me to take Intermittent Family Medical Leave) in order to care for him because I would not have been able to afford to hire nursing care? Would I have sat by, holding his hand, unable to help? How would I live with myself if those were the choices? And I know there are people out there making exactly those choices. 

In today's NY Times, Bill Keller wrote a column titled, Obamacare: The Rest Of The Story. He's talking about the reality of having an affordable care act that isn't perfect, but it's better that what we currently have, which is nothing. His opening salvo:

Unless you’ve been bamboozled by the frantic fictions of the right wing, you know that the Affordable Care Act, familiarly known as Obamacare, has begun to accomplish its first goal: enrolling millions of uninsured Americans, many of whom have been living one medical emergency away from the poorhouse. 

This is the reality of life...and death... for way too many Americans. And there is nothing stopping a whole lot more of us from being in that queue but for a stroke of luck or karma or magic or G-d's good graces. Working hard is no longer the guarantee it once was. Pensions are pretty much gone, 401k's and IRA's are not guaranteed. One serious illness and you, too, can be facing bankruptcy. Lonegan, the clown running for the senate in New Jersey has come right out and said he sees no reason why he should pay for someone else's illness. At the Hudson Valley Debate Union, Mr Lonegan said,

“Well, I’ll go one step further. I’ll be as callous and uncaring as you can imagine. I have no interest in paying for your health care. I’d hate to see you get cancer, but that’s your problem not mine. I’m going to pay for my health care, I’m going to take care of my children’s health care and tend to my wife. And when I stand for charity care [inaudible], you no one else has the authority to infringe on my right [inaudible] dig into my pocket and my ability to pay to pay for your health care or anybody else’s.

 07/07/11

His opinion is far from being the only one like this. Anyone who doesn't take this as a personal affront to the idea of We, the People, needs to move elsewhere. This is the total antithesis of the idea of UNITED States. Anyone who votes that line had better be prepared for the end of Social Security and Medicare because as entitlement programs, they are totally on the block. Has anyone ever heard a GOP plan for what would be replacing the ACA? I'd really like to hear what these guys are thinking!

Sitting in that darkened room, I thought a lot about the government shutdown. The number of people being denied essential services. The number of people who now hover on the cusp of having any sort of coverage (including my musician son.) The number of people who will die because medical services are not available. Do we have a responsibility to even provide health coverage? 

The concept of UNITED States seems to have disappeared from the common lexicon. If we are not united for the cause of public good and welfare, what's the point of being united? The House of Clowns done have more damage to the idea of UNITED States than the Civil War. At least in the Civil War there was a real-time ideology fight taken to the streets. Where is the compare and contrast part of the debate?  The House seems to be in possession of a collective conscious that believes it's free to do whatever it wants without regard to law, vox populi, or even common sense, when, in fact, it is not.

Speaking of COMMON SENSE, Thomas Paine wrote:

“Men who look upon themselves born to reign, and others to obey, soon grow insolent; selected from the rest of mankind their minds are early poisoned by importance; and the world they act in differs so materially from the world at large, that they have but little opportunity of knowing its true interests, and when they succeed to the government are frequently the most ignorant and unfit of any throughout the dominions.”

COMMON SENSE

1775-1776

The GOP has made this fight personal in all the wrong ways. The only thing We, the People have left to decide is on which side we stand. 

Wifely Person's Tip o'the Week

Just because a guy is  retired vet, 

it doesn't mean he cares a whit about cats. 

Ask him about chickens and cows, and you've got a new BFF.